Stepping outside your comfort zone is looked highly upon. But remember, you are who you are. Stay true to yourself but understand that there is more to life then what you see and understand. Maybe that is the importance of stepping outside your comfort zone. So that you understand life as it pertains to other people and not only yourself. You will never gain this understanding living in your own bubble.
Can emotions really be controlled. Less then an hour ago I discovered that I lost my wallet, while I am in Spain studying abroad. Initially I was beyond blown, ( that’s really upset for those who don’t know what that means). Went to look for it but had no success. I am currently on a train to get my haircut. And the thought came over me, this situation is out of my control. Why let what has happened and what will continue to be control how I feel for the next hour or rest of the night. So as I write, I am at piece. What is supposed to happen will happen, wether I’m happy or pissed.
This got me thinking. Can you really control your emotions. Initially I was upset about losing my wallet but I don’t think there is any way I could have avoided that. It happened too naturally. But something I did, I actively did something that was in my control, that has changed my disposition. Was it simply not caring about something that is out of my control. Maybe, but I could choose to still be upset about the whole situation. Did I choose not to be upset about the situation?? Maybe but can this power be exerted in other situations. Can one choose to be hurt, angry, disappointed? When someone hurts or disappoints you is it as easy as choosing not to be hurt or disappointed anymore. This is making me crazy right now. Need to think on this more.
It baffles me when someone is like “you don’t understand or you wont understand”. I get it, maybe we have never been through the same experience, but that does not take away my ability to understand what it means to be hurt, disappointed, or upset. The degree to which we feel the emotion may be different, but its not hard to imagine a difference in severity. no one ever says “you wont understand or you don’t understand” when its something good that has happened to them in their life. when you get married, you don’t refrain from telling your single friends how happy you are being married, simply because they are single. You graduate with a 4.0, most people do not refrain from talking to others about it with a gpa less then a 4.0 because they don’t understand. Emotions are complicated. Being hurt by a spouse and being hurt by a parent differ, but both parties can understand what it means to be hurt.
I find it hard to think that i would refrain from talking to someone on the basis that they have never gone through the same experience. Its like punishing them because they have never had cancer or because they have never had a friend betray them. These are horrible experiences that i would wish on anyone, especially someone who is my friend, just so that they “understand” me. These experiences can be teaching tools to others. Sharing them only with people who have shared the same experience is like teaching Paula Deen how to make a grilled cheese sandwich.
There comes a time when you need to focus on yourself. Learn about yourself and grow as an individual. Before one can come into anyone else’s life, and better them, one has to be in a place themselves to do so. Chaos breeds further chaos. It may seem like taking time for yourself is being selfish but I guess a better way to think about it is, you are investing time in yourself to be the best brother, sister, parent, boyfriend, girlfriend you can possibly be to someone else. Not only is taking time for self growth an investment in yourself but it is also an investment in your relationships with other people.
THE PELICAN SWALLOWED THE WHOLE PIGEON
WHAT THE SHIT
this video is creepy as fuck
Pelicans are so hard
is this normal… like do pelicans eat pigeons???
What to do when you know what you want, but don’t know how to get it, Even questioning if what you want is possible to obtain. Stepping out on faith always sounds good, but what happens when you dont know the direction to take your first step…. This shit blows -_- i promise
It’s either 100 percent or nothing. You get everything. The good, the bad, and the worst.
When I talk, getting the other person to understand fully or empathize is not always the goal in mind. Sometimes there is no way for you to understand because you haven’t been in my position. But at the same time I wouldn’t wish certain situations on anyone just so that you can fully understand what I’m talking about. And you fully understanding what in going through does nothing for me anyway. I understand it may be comforting to talk to someone who can empathize, but usually seeking people to empathize with is one looking for a person who will supply them with a reaction they desire. And if so, so be it. Sometimes I talk because when shit goes down, if you are someone who’s worth two shits, I want to afford you the opportunity to gain some insight.
If you’re capable of understanding that’s all I ask for.
One of the best things about growing up and leaving home is that you have the space and time to really learn about yourself and understand who you are. While here in Spain, i cant lie that i have learned more then i ever expected to about myself. Im starting to understand exactly what kind of person i am, and what i do and do not want in my life.
Being here and having the space and ability to do whatever i want, without any worries is not something that i like. That might sound crazy but the role that friends and family play in my life is very important. They are the ones who hold me accountable. Will put it this way, deciding to study abroad has truly been a life changing experience not because i have been able to see how Spaniards and Europeans live, or learn another language, but because i have had time to myself, to reflect on who i thought i was, i have come to terms with who i actually am, and now i shall work towards being who i want to be.